Sunday, April 14, 2013

Equally yoked............

The other day, a friend and I were talking about marriage.  She made the comment that Honey and I seem to have a marriage that is equally yoked.

I loved that term!  Two people ... going in the same direction ... both pulling equally .... looking forward, not back.   Making a marriage work.

And then ... this weekend ... Gabby Reece has been on the news show circuit talking about her marriage and how she uses her soft, feminine .....even submissive ... side to keep the marriage working.

And the Twitter-sphere was off and running about how women can not be submissive!  And strong women are not submissive and so-on and so-forth.  And how women should not submit to their husbands.

Yea. Yea. Yea.

Honey and I practice a marriage philosophy called "Love and Respect".  And practice is definitely the right word because I have to practice a lot.  Maybe if I practice enough .... I will get it right. ;)

Based on scripture .... Ephesians 5:33 ...... a husband is commanded by God to love his wife unconditionally and a woman is commanded by God to respect her husband unconditionally. 

Period.  Dot.  What ever you want to call it .... that is all.

It is that simple. 

Now life, money woes, work stresses, kids, illness and frustrations can throw any marriage off that straight narrow freshly plowed furrow.  Suddenly, you are not equally yoked and life is crazy.  And no one is happy.

Ms. Reece has it right.  A marriage works best when two people work at making the other person happy.

Its not about what you can do for me .... but what I can do for you.

So my feminist sisters seem to be up in arms over this.  And I don't get it.  And I really didn't think there was anyone more feminist than me!

Don't we all want happy relationships??? 

I haven't read Ms. Reece 's book and I won't.  But should we be blasting someone that found a way to keep a marriage together in a society where 50% of all marriages fail???

I still want equal pay .... I still want equal rights.  I still want to see women smash through that glass ceiling.

But I want them to come home to a partner that equally shares their burdens .... shares their joys and their sorrows.

I want them  to be equally-yoked.


2 comments:

Michelle said...

Oh Miss Effie, you are my SISTER! I believe exactly as you have stated about both marriage and women's rights! Thanks for voicing this, for all of who agree with you, and for those who don't. ;-)

Kay Norris said...

Amen, Sister!! You put everything into words beautifully. I just got remarried on 12-12-12. We are equally yoked, both moving together in the same direction. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this subject!